Love others actively

“Love” here means the Platonic, practical kind: doing what’s best for the person and the relationship. That includes boundaries, repair, and encouragement. It looks like self-sacrifice, attention, and time.

Gratitude, offered unexpectedly, is powerful. And it must stretch across the different “whos” in your life, not just one circle. Help people clarify their who and what, and whether that aligns with yours.

The gist is simple: give people what they truly need, not what flatters them in the moment.

The Core Idea

Love is a verb, not just a feeling. It’s showing up. It’s paying attention when you’d rather scroll. It’s having the hard conversation instead of letting resentment fester. It’s repair after rupture.

Why This Matters

Relationships are maintained through action, not sentiment. The feeling of love can fade; the practice of love keeps connection alive. And unexpectedly generous acts—the note, the gift, the favour—compound into deep bonds.

The Three Moves

1. Attend: Full presence is rare and valuable
2. Give: Unexpected generosity across all your circles
3. Repair: Quick, honest acknowledgment when things go wrong